Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Musings For Today

I just heard Mohit Chauhan's Tune Jo Na Kaha from New York. This is the first time in the last two months that I've heard a song worth writing about. True, I've been out of touch with Hindi music a little, but even so. I really liked this song, with its soulful, touching words.

It's funny, how Delhi is drying up, how the monsoon refuses to arrive back home, and here it's been raining almost all week, with the rain not stopping even for long enough for me to take a short walk outside. I've been spending more time in the gym all week.

I never before saw a man go out of his way to hold a door open for a woman. A couple of days back, as I was walking to the gym, which is in a different building in the same apartment complex, I was just outside the building and fishing for the keys to the building in my pocket. And this guy who happened to be in the corridor, walked all the way to the door and held it open. I thought he's opened it because he wanted to come out. Then he told me he didn't, he was just opening it for me. He said that no gentleman wants to see a lady fishing for her keys in the rain. I was slightly dazed. I think that kind of chivalry is fast dissolving into nothingness these days. It's great, however, to see a glimpse of it every now and then.

6 comments:

actinium said...

u nvr knw ven a woman would appreciate ur 'chivalry', and ven dey'd call u 'chauvinist' for d same act...
all those hu agree please raise ur hands :P

Bhavya said...

I have never seen a woman call a man who holds out a chair or holds open a door for her a chauvinist! I would never do that!

cornucopia_of_gobbledygook said...

oh well.. there is a thin line between chivalry and chauvinism.. and right now, chivalry wins!!

Akash said...

Bhavya, I feel that recently you started finding more ways to prove the social etiquette of states better than they are in India... I am sorry to say that either you denied to notice the same acts in India or you are more touched to see the same things happening outside India...

It is possible that U didn't notice the similar things back-home coz they were just-like-that and you didn't find anything to notice abt those but in states you don't expect such acts and when they happen, U are forced to notice...

Bhavya said...

Akash: This one was not about the States or India. Just that one particular guy. Not that I never saw anybody hold a door open for a woman in India. I remember incidents like Abhinav doing that for me in a meeting room. But I never saw anyone go out of their way to do it. Not everybody here is that chivalrous, either

actinium said...

@cornucopia: yeah...but apparently dat thin line is so thin dat men (and at times even women demselves!) fail to c it...worse, it keeps changing from woman-to-woman!

@bhavya: i kinda agree with akash...as dey say "ghar ki murgi, daal barabar" :P