Love is an elusive little butterfly. It comes and rests softly on your shoulder when you are looking the other way. But as long as you run after it with a butterfly net, it flies farther and farther away from you. It's the fistful of sand that you cannot clutch too tightly, or it will escape. But you know, there are times when people experience a moment of realization when they figure out that all they'd always been looking for was always there, right beside them. Have you seen My Best Friend's Wedding? I've seen that movie any number of times. It's about a woman who's loved her best friend for nine years and suddenly realizes it when he announces that he's getting married. To someone else.
But think about it. Who better to fall in love with and marry than your best friend? Someone who's seen you through all your ups and downs, seen you in sickness and in health, and always stood by you? Although not too many of us girls are lucky enough to have a friend like that who's also single and straight. But those who are, it's worth thinking about. You know you are compatible, you know you can spend hours together doing almost anything or precisely nothing. Actually there's a basic human tendency of not thinking about people from that perspective once they're in your friend zone. And even if you do, you know what we are all afraid of? It's difficult enough to find a friend like that in the first place. Why would someone in her right mind want to risk losing that friendship if things do not work out at the next level? A bunch of people do advocate that you can still be friends even if they don't, but it's not that easy really.
As always, I'm not sure if I have a point here. I'm just bantering on about some things that occurred to me for no apparent reason, hoping that someone might comment on it and give me some more food for thought.
3 comments:
Hmm...may be true soemtimes but isn't it like that if two opposite sex people spend their most of time together, sooner or later they develop strong feeling towards each other? Yup, sometimes we feel that we have found our love in the form of our best friend but are we not compelling our hearts to feel this infatuation as love...
i don't know...mayb m putting into words the half-cooked thoughts my tired mind is toying with at this point of time, but i beg to differ...if u vr to think abt it, u'd realise that d biggest thing that keeps u hooked to life is its unpredictability. n i believe the same applies to any sort of relationship as well. sum1 hu knows u too well is the perfect ingredient of a long lasting friendship. but in a relationship, its the unpredictability that keeps the spark alive...
I think, in a relationship that's meant to last, you need to be really good friends, you need to know each other inside out, and you need to be comfortable. The unpredictable, magical factor is good in the beginning, but as things move along, you realize that you need the familiarity, the comfort, and some amount of predictability. The spark that you speak of is a very fleeting thing anyway
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